<p dir="ltr">Maybe not exactly related but, Im "Latino." I work at a supermarket and talk to people all the time (duh). When Im approached by other Latinos im often spoken to in Spanish. When I tell them I dont speak Spanish Im often shown signs of surprise and/or disgust. I think thats a hostile ism? I dont know what kinda ism? Racism?</p>
<p dir="ltr">Similarly, or maybe not so, when I hear Chinese (Mandarin) being spoken, I introduce a couple of comments in Mandarin. I usually get "Wow! Thats good." And a couple of laughs. As I continue, I rarely get into any significant dialogue and feel more like a circus show. Benevolent ism?</p>
<p dir="ltr">If I were to speak Spanish I suppose it wouldnt be a surprise since so many Latinos speak it. I am "Latino" after all. And if I were not to speak Chinese I suppose it wouldnt be any big deal since perhaps not such a majority of Latinos speak it. I am "Latino" after all.</p>
<p dir="ltr">In the beginning I would be angry. Especially when people insisted on speaking to me in Spanish after I told them I dont speak it. Instead now I just respond in Chinese. And when Chinese speakers treat me like a circus show, I tell them, "Wow! You speak English! Good job!" Im not so angry about it anymore, but I do feel obligated to return the favor of one's behavior toward me.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I do reflect on my opinions of things throughout the day. I think its important to pay attention to what sparks certain emotions. Actions (speech)? Or my past experiences (which are also limited)? Anyway, im ranting.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Alcides Gutierrez<br>
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<div class="gmail_quote">On Apr 6, 2013 12:12 PM, "Snail" <<a href="mailto:snailtsunami@gmail.com">snailtsunami@gmail.com</a>> wrote:<br type="attribution"><blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex">
<div dir="ltr">You misspelled my name :P<br><br>People -constantly- try to help me with my bike on the rack at Noisebridge when I don't manage to hike it up in one swoop. They -always- try to explain to me how I'm doing it wrong. They -always- think I don't understand the problem or that I can't do it myself. It's always a man who does this.<br>
<br>It would be annoying even if I were a man, to be doing a simple task and have someone male or female --jump in my way and literally try to take it out of my hands while I'm working on it--.<br><br></div><div class="gmail_extra">
<br><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Sat, Apr 6, 2013 at 12:01 PM, LinkReincarnate <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:linkreincarnate@gmail.com" target="_blank">linkreincarnate@gmail.com</a>></span> wrote:<br><blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex">
<p dir="ltr">Benevolent Sexism exists. I am not here to argue that is does not. I will point out that there is a lot of behavior that overlaps with Benevolent Sexist behaviors. For example I was in the space and snell was trying to get her bike off of the rack. From my angle I could see that the tire was still stuck on the hook so I tried to lift the tire off of the hook. Snell didn't like this and told me to stop. I did. The only reason I could see for her not wanting my help was because I was a man, she was a woman, and heavy lifting was involved. The problem is that I was not helping her out of a sense that "she's just a frail woman" I was helping her because I saw what was causing her problems. (And she appeared to be at an angle that obscured the problem) Had she been a man I would have still helped remove the bike from the rack. So while benevolent sexism exists lets not go overboard in reacting to perceived benevolent sexism. There a lots and lots of prosocial behaviors that overlap with benevolent sexism and without knowing the other persons thoughts and motivation for initiating an act you cannot tell one from the other. In other words give people the benefit of the doubt. If you see some behavior that you think is benevolently sexist rather than scowl at the person for it, check yourself. Is there a possibility that this person's actions were not in fact motivated by my sex? Is there a possibility that by being so hypervigilant for sexism that I am finding false positives?</p>
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