<div dir="ltr">This is what I call Digital Phrenology.<div><br></div></div><div class="gmail_extra"><br><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Sat, Apr 6, 2013 at 1:18 AM, Gavin Knight <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:gnnrok@gmail.com" target="_blank">gnnrok@gmail.com</a>></span> wrote:<br>
<blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex"><div dir="ltr">Did you see this article 2 days ago anyone?<div><a href="http://health.yahoo.net/experts/dayinhealth/surprising-differences-between-male-and-female-brain200" target="_blank">http://health.yahoo.net/experts/dayinhealth/surprising-differences-between-male-and-female-brain200</a><br>
</div></div><div class="HOEnZb"><div class="h5"><div class="gmail_extra"><br><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Sat, Apr 6, 2013 at 12:05 AM, Naomi Most <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:pnaomi@gmail.com" target="_blank">pnaomi@gmail.com</a>></span> wrote:<br>
<blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex"><div dir="ltr">Or a Dick, perhaps. :D<div><br></div><div>Yeah, the analogy was a stretch, but I went ahead and made it anyway. </div>
</div><div><div><div class="gmail_extra"><br><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Fri, Apr 5, 2013 at 11:15 PM, macegr <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:garrettmace@gmail.com" target="_blank">garrettmace@gmail.com</a>></span> wrote:<br>
<blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex"><div style="word-wrap:break-word"><div>Actually, I think it's more accurate to say that now I understand a little bit of how it feels to be a Tom, Dave, Bill, or John. :)</div>
<div><br></div><br><div><div><div>On Apr 5, 2013, at 9:16 PM, Naomi Most <<a href="mailto:pnaomi@gmail.com" target="_blank">pnaomi@gmail.com</a>> wrote:</div><br></div><div><div><blockquote type="cite">
<div dir="ltr">Heh, now you know something of how a lot of us women felt when getting on the internet a decade or more ago (and for many, even still). I have been using neutral-gender online handles since 1995.<div><br>
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<div>--Naomi aka nthmost aka venix aka 101101 ...</div><div><br></div></div><div class="gmail_extra"><br><br><div class="gmail_quote">On Fri, Apr 5, 2013 at 7:48 PM, Garrett Mace <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:garrettmace@gmail.com" target="_blank">garrettmace@gmail.com</a>></span> wrote:<br>
<blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex"><div dir="auto"><div>I'm not happy with the risk that anyone might confuse me with Garrett Smith, since it appears we have some major differences in many viewpoints despite having the same uncommon first name. I am going to come up with a pseudonym to use on this list as I'm no longer comfortable using my own.</div>
<div><br></div><div>--- Garrett Mace, (non-jerk)<div><div><br><br>On Apr 5, 2013, at 4:22 PM, Lyra <<a href="mailto:elevin@MIT.EDU" target="_blank">elevin@MIT.EDU</a>> wrote:<br><br></div></div></div><div>
<div><blockquote type="cite"><p>Naomi, you are of course welcome to keep fighting with him. I just don't find that fun or useful, so I won't. </p><p>Rachel Lyra! Very true. That being said, we can (and should) work to improve ourselves and our world simultaneously. It seems there are different hosts benevolent (or not so) sexism may reside in and different ways to combat it in each case. </p>
<p>For ourselves, the hard part is noticing. This would be made far easier if it were more socially okay for people to call us out on such behavior. For example, a friend mentioned to me that when I used the word 'dick' for a mean person, I was reinforcing the idea of men being synonymous with jerks. I'm glad he was comfortable with telling me that, as it gave me the opportunity to change my behavior in some small, positive way. </p>
<p>Rational people whose opinions we care about can be reasoned with and irrational people who's opinions carry no personal value can be ignored. But what about people who hold these beliefs unreasonably and for some reason, their opinion must be worked around (policy makers, cultural leaders, teachers, bosses, investors...)? </p>
<p>Lyra Rachel Levin</p><p>Sent en route, pardon the brevity. </p>
<div class="gmail_quote">On Apr 5, 2013 4:07 PM, "rachel lyra hospodar" <<a href="mailto:rachelyra@gmail.com" target="_blank">rachelyra@gmail.com</a>> wrote:<br type="attribution"><blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex">
Thanks for this, Lyra! I think there are a bunch of good ways to move forward on issues of embedded sexist behaviors. Ultimately the question of what to do next depends on who the speaker is. We all have work we can do within ourselves, and the old advice about tending to the beam in one's own eye first rings pretty true here. Sometimes I think the most fruitful thing for most of us to do is to encourage the normalization of a critical analysis and discussion of these issues, as a normal and rational part of public discourse.<br>
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R.<br>
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On 4/5/2013 4:01 PM, Lyra wrote:<br>
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So I tend to just write off people like Garrett Smith - their opinion is<br>
not useful or valid to me so why waste cycles feeding the trolls?<br>
However, Merlin's link on Stereotype Threat clarified what is bad about<br>
that behavior. This isn't a small, vocal, but ultimately powerless group<br>
that thinks this way. This is a lot of people, some very intelligent,<br>
some very powerful.<br>
<br>
Instead of bothering with this fruitless argument with Garrett, let's<br>
look at ways we can combat the source of the problem. Calling people out<br>
on unnoticed bad behavior is one way. Pro active and empowering<br>
education opportunities are an excellent one too (for adults and<br>
especially for children). Further thoughts?<br>
<br>
Lyra<br>
<br>
Sent en route, pardon the brevity.<br>
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