[Noisebridge-discuss] It has come to my attention that...

Liz Henry lizhenry at gmail.com
Tue Jun 18 18:17:15 UTC 2013 

My thought here is that Dru's responses are indicative of the problem
people are pointing out.  His emails back and forth with Dante also are
very indicative of this problem as Dante says "don't sexualize our
interactions" and he continues doing so, while attempting to gaslight Dante
and telling him that he(Dru) know what he wants better than Dante knows it
. That is a very serious interpersonal problem.  Please consider it, Dru.

I would describe this pattern (to be overly generous) as overstepping what
would commonly be thought of as a boundary socially and physically, and
sexualizing people and situations inappropriately, even after they set a
boundary explicitly.  Dru's emails continue that pattern right out in
public.


Liz


On Tue, Jun 18, 2013 at 9:11 AM, Lillian Fleurs <lillian.fleurs at gmail.com>wrote:

> @Daniel
> The medication I take is hardly experimental and has been prescribed to me
> by a licensed physician. It's a common prescription given to anyone with an
> incorrect balance of hormones, including those seeking treatment for gender
> dysphoria. At the time I was homeless and the shot was already several days
> late because I was trying to find a more suitable location. Doing a sterile
> intramuscular injection in a private room in Noisebridge seemed far more
> ideal than dealing with heat flashes and excessive moodiness.
>
> @Dru
> I'd like to add that I was sitting far away from you, looking down in
> shock from being violated. I kept trying to give you the benefit of the
> doubt, but your complete denial of what happened and your inability to
> apologize or defend your actions in a way that made sense leads me to
> believe that my assumption that you're a sexual predator and don't belong
> at Noisebridge is correct.
>
> As for advocates, anyone who's willing to stand for my side can email me.
>
>
> On Mon, Jun 17, 2013 at 5:32 PM, Daniel Kelly <arrays.tostring at gmail.com>wrote:
>
>> There are worse places than Noisebridge for injecting of experimental
>> medications with needles.
>> None immediately come to mind though.
>>
>>
>>
>> On Mon, Jun 17, 2013 at 12:46 PM, Lillian Fleurs <
>> lillian.fleurs at gmail.com> wrote:
>>
>>> You tried to unzip my pants for me, that's what initially made me
>>> uncomfortable. You reached around my body, putting your hands very near my
>>> genitals and began to unzip my pants for me. That's when I tensed up and
>>> asked you what the fuck you were doing. You made me far too tense and
>>> uncomfortable to receive a shot from you. It also wasn't until Kim came
>>> into the room offering you weed that you actually left. Dante was not in
>>> the room when it happened, it was only you and I. However Dante did see my
>>> fear, shock and discomfort after the incident. And it was Dante who helped
>>> calm me down enough to be able to receive my estrogen injection.
>>>
>>> The email I sent to Tony, which was later sent to Liz is word for word
>>> what happened. Below is a screenshot.
>>>
>>> [image: Inline image 1]
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> On Mon, Jun 17, 2013 at 12:13 PM, Andrew Byrne <andrew at pachakutech.com>wrote:
>>>
>>>> Since this is all out on the list, I feel the need to present my side;
>>>> it is clear to me now what this is.
>>>>
>>>> For a few weeks, Lillian had asked of I could give her one of her
>>>> supplemental estrogen shots, and one night I was at NoiseBridge when
>>>> Lillian asked me to give her her shot. I said sure, she climbed up, laid
>>>> down on the table, and pulled down her jeans enough to expose her buttocks,
>>>> I readied the injection and placed my left hand on the back of her upper
>>>> thigh. She stiffened, and told me that she felt uncomfortable, so I
>>>> stopped, moved away, apologized for the discomfort and then left the room.
>>>> There was never a "what the fuck are you doing?".
>>>>
>>>> It's pretty rich that /she/ is accusing me of cocaine use. It's not out
>>>> of my experience, but as I have dopamine insensitivity--ADD--the stuff
>>>> doesn't have the pleasure response for me that justifies the absurd prices;
>>>> that and the killing South Americans bit.
>>>>
>>>> Unfortunately, the only other witness in the room was Dante I think
>>>> Dante was expelled from the Tuesday meeting two weeks ago and is
>>>> unquestionably her "other people"--Dante got angry when I sent him an email
>>>> invitation to a 'digital feminine' salon b/c he doesn't see himself as
>>>> feminine and started this whole process about three weeks after Lillian
>>>> left; it was then that Lillian "unfriended" me on Fb. That only sounds
>>>> trite until I add that she accepted my friend request after leaving SF for
>>>> wherever she is now.
>>>>
>>>> I'd still like to drag up the Dante incident, as there were several
>>>> witnesses on my side and a documented willful misrepresentation to Liz on
>>>> Dante's. I would like to ask Liz now to retain copies of her emails
>>>> regarding this for possible subpoena.
>>>>
>>>> A friend? No you saw me as a rube.
>>>> -dru
>>>> On Jun 17, 2013 11:06 AM, "Lillian Fleurs" <lillian.fleurs at gmail.com>
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> Well maybe you should have thought about these things before you
>>>>> pinned me down on a table and began unzipping my pants without any
>>>>> permission at all, refusing to stop even after I froze in fear asking what
>>>>> the fuck you were doing. I was shaken after that. I used to like you Drew,
>>>>> and it took me so long to report anything because I was worried about
>>>>> hurting someone I thought was a good person. You seemed to be high on
>>>>> cocaine or something, which initially allowed me to excuse the behavior. It
>>>>> wasn't until other people made me realize this wasn't just a one off
>>>>> incident that I decided to report what had happened. I recall you making
>>>>> creepy sexual comments about others way before this incident too, so
>>>>> looking back now I don't find what happened surprising and I probably could
>>>>> have prevented being violated.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> On Mon, Jun 17, 2013 at 12:33 AM, Andrew Byrne <andrew at pachakutech.com
>>>>> > wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>> I would also like to point out the assumption of my guilt throughout
>>>>>> this discourse; I was told I was considered a sexual predator by the
>>>>>> anarcho-fem community a week before being contacted officially, and this
>>>>>> hateful trope has been driving me away from the space since. It will
>>>>>> doubtless screw with my social life for another few months and affects me
>>>>>> professionally; I can't even get a response from Mozilla's bug network now,
>>>>>> thanks to this. I know, hard to empathize with someone the mediator is
>>>>>> calling out, but once this is cleared up, I'd like this experience well
>>>>>> documented -dru
>>>>>>  On Jun 16, 2013 9:29 PM, "Liz Henry" <lizhenry at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>> I would also like for this to be discussed again in a meeting. I
>>>>>>> brought this up at the meeting not last week but the week before. But, I
>>>>>>> have not been in the greatest of health and have missed a lot of meetings.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> It was also brought to my attention that Jesse Z. wants to come back
>>>>>>> to Noisebridge.   I do not think this is a good idea.  Basically, I don't
>>>>>>> want to be around people who have behaved in the ways that either Jesse and
>>>>>>> Dru have behaved.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> There are so many good things about Noisebridge, and about its
>>>>>>> openness.  To keep that good for as many people as possible we do need to
>>>>>>> have good boundaries.  And ask people who have shown great disrespect for
>>>>>>> others by non consensual behavior to stay away and work out their issues to
>>>>>>> learn better behavior in some other context, rather than being in the
>>>>>>> middle of an space without much in the way of rules or safety.  Sexual
>>>>>>> assault and other violent behavior destroys our ability to trust each
>>>>>>> other. I want to be able to trust people at NB, and to be able to tell
>>>>>>> others they are likely relatively safe there.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Best,
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Liz
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> On Sun, Jun 16, 2013 at 8:41 PM, Lillian Fleurs <
>>>>>>> lillian.fleurs at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> A member of the community known as Andrew "Dru" Byrne has yet to be
>>>>>>>> kicked out of the community. Right before I moved he did some EXTREMELY
>>>>>>>> inappropriate and non consensual things to me that extend far beyond
>>>>>>>> creepy. I sent some emails to Tony "LeTigre", who then forwarded them to
>>>>>>>> Liz. I had asked both of them to keep what had happened to me anonymous.
>>>>>>>> I'm coming out of anonymity because it appears nothing has been done to get
>>>>>>>> rid of someone who poses a high threat to other members of the community
>>>>>>>> (both male and female, trans and cis).
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Unfortunately since I no longer live in San Francisco, I can not
>>>>>>>> show up to a Noisebridge meeting but I would like this issue brought up,
>>>>>>>> because others who still use the space have expressed to me that they don't
>>>>>>>> feel safe around Andrew either.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> I'm sorry for the drama, but I'm not the one who started it.
>>>>>>>>
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>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> --
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .
>>>>>>> Liz Henry
>>>>>>> lhenry at mozilla.com
>>>>>>> lizhenry at gmail.com
>>>>>>>
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