[Noisebridge-discuss] It has come to my attention that...

Mon Jun 17 19:13:48 UTC 2013

Since this is all out on the list, I feel the need to present my side; it
is clear to me now what this is.

For a few weeks, Lillian had asked of I could give her one of her
supplemental estrogen shots, and one night I was at NoiseBridge when
Lillian asked me to give her her shot. I said sure, she climbed up, laid
down on the table, and pulled down her jeans enough to expose her buttocks,
I readied the injection and placed my left hand on the back of her upper
thigh. She stiffened, and told me that she felt uncomfortable, so I
stopped, moved away, apologized for the discomfort and then left the room.
There was never a "what the fuck are you doing?".

It's pretty rich that /she/ is accusing me of cocaine use. It's not out of
my experience, but as I have dopamine insensitivity--ADD--the stuff doesn't
have the pleasure response for me that justifies the absurd prices; that
and the killing South Americans bit.

Unfortunately, the only other witness in the room was Dante I think Dante
was expelled from the Tuesday meeting two weeks ago and is unquestionably
her "other people"--Dante got angry when I sent him an email invitation to
a 'digital feminine' salon b/c he doesn't see himself as feminine and
started this whole process about three weeks after Lillian left; it was
then that Lillian "unfriended" me on Fb. That only sounds trite until I add
that she accepted my friend request after leaving SF for wherever she is
now.

I'd still like to drag up the Dante incident, as there were several
witnesses on my side and a documented willful misrepresentation to Liz on
Dante's. I would like to ask Liz now to retain copies of her emails
regarding this for possible subpoena.

A friend? No you saw me as a rube.
-dru
On Jun 17, 2013 11:06 AM, "Lillian Fleurs" <lillian.fleurs at gmail.com> wrote:

> Well maybe you should have thought about these things before you pinned me
> down on a table and began unzipping my pants without any permission at all,
> refusing to stop even after I froze in fear asking what the fuck you were
> doing. I was shaken after that. I used to like you Drew, and it took me so
> long to report anything because I was worried about hurting someone I
> thought was a good person. You seemed to be high on cocaine or something,
> which initially allowed me to excuse the behavior. It wasn't until other
> people made me realize this wasn't just a one off incident that I decided
> to report what had happened. I recall you making creepy sexual comments
> about others way before this incident too, so looking back now I don't find
> what happened surprising and I probably could have prevented being violated.
>
>
> On Mon, Jun 17, 2013 at 12:33 AM, Andrew Byrne <andrew at pachakutech.com>wrote:
>
>> I would also like to point out the assumption of my guilt throughout this
>> discourse; I was told I was considered a sexual predator by the anarcho-fem
>> community a week before being contacted officially, and this hateful trope
>> has been driving me away from the space since. It will doubtless screw with
>> my social life for another few months and affects me professionally; I
>> can't even get a response from Mozilla's bug network now, thanks to this. I
>> know, hard to empathize with someone the mediator is calling out, but once
>> this is cleared up, I'd like this experience well documented -dru
>>  On Jun 16, 2013 9:29 PM, "Liz Henry" <lizhenry at gmail.com> wrote:
>>
>>> I would also like for this to be discussed again in a meeting. I brought
>>> this up at the meeting not last week but the week before. But, I have not
>>> been in the greatest of health and have missed a lot of meetings.
>>>
>>> It was also brought to my attention that Jesse Z. wants to come back to
>>> Noisebridge.   I do not think this is a good idea.  Basically, I don't want
>>> to be around people who have behaved in the ways that either Jesse and Dru
>>> have behaved.
>>>
>>> There are so many good things about Noisebridge, and about its
>>> openness.  To keep that good for as many people as possible we do need to
>>> have good boundaries.  And ask people who have shown great disrespect for
>>> others by non consensual behavior to stay away and work out their issues to
>>> learn better behavior in some other context, rather than being in the
>>> middle of an space without much in the way of rules or safety.  Sexual
>>> assault and other violent behavior destroys our ability to trust each
>>> other. I want to be able to trust people at NB, and to be able to tell
>>> others they are likely relatively safe there.
>>>
>>>
>>> Best,
>>>
>>> Liz
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> On Sun, Jun 16, 2013 at 8:41 PM, Lillian Fleurs <
>>> lillian.fleurs at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>
>>>> A member of the community known as Andrew "Dru" Byrne has yet to be
>>>> kicked out of the community. Right before I moved he did some EXTREMELY
>>>> inappropriate and non consensual things to me that extend far beyond
>>>> creepy. I sent some emails to Tony "LeTigre", who then forwarded them to
>>>> Liz. I had asked both of them to keep what had happened to me anonymous.
>>>> I'm coming out of anonymity because it appears nothing has been done to get
>>>> rid of someone who poses a high threat to other members of the community
>>>> (both male and female, trans and cis).
>>>>
>>>> Unfortunately since I no longer live in San Francisco, I can not show
>>>> up to a Noisebridge meeting but I would like this issue brought up, because
>>>> others who still use the space have expressed to me that they don't feel
>>>> safe around Andrew either.
>>>>
>>>> I'm sorry for the drama, but I'm not the one who started it.
>>>>
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>>>
>>>
>>> --
>>>
>>> .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .
>>> Liz Henry
>>> lhenry at mozilla.com
>>> lizhenry at gmail.com
>>>
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