[Noisebridge-discuss] "Banning" discussion tonight

Wed Feb 26 05:12:25 UTC 2014

With all due respect, you have not seen the extreme.

On Tue, Feb 25, 2014 at 8:46 PM, Ronald Cotoni <setient at gmail.com> wrote:
> No but we are at the other extreme.  There are infinite points between and
> we need to find the happy balance with our awesome and excellent ideals and
> the rest of the world and all of humanity.  Ideally everyone else adopts
> these rules and is just nice to everyone.
>
> On Feb 25, 2014 8:21 PM, "Naomi Most" <pnaomi at gmail.com> wrote:
>>
>> So, in other words, you see the world in black and white.
>>
>> On Tue, Feb 25, 2014 at 8:21 PM, Ronald Cotoni <setient at gmail.com> wrote:
>> > The same thing can be said of the opposite and this is where we are now.
>> >
>> > On Feb 25, 2014 8:20 PM, "Naomi Most" <pnaomi at gmail.com> wrote:
>> >>
>> >> I'm with you.
>> >>
>> >> What I'm pointing out is that -- and I do like most of the rules and
>> >> policies that have been made so far -- our culture is a work in
>> >> progress.  Taking all existing policy decisions as sacrosanct puts
>> >> Noisebridge into a more and more fragile and rigid stance where it
>> >> can't adapt or improve.
>> >>
>> >>
>> >>
>> >> On Tue, Feb 25, 2014 at 7:58 PM, Ronald Cotoni <setient at gmail.com>
>> >> wrote:
>> >> > I would say anything that has passed consensus is also a rule until
>> >> > consensus changes it.   I would also say that the harassment policy
>> >> > is
>> >> > common sense and speaks of treating others with respect which falls
>> >> > under be
>> >> > excellent but due to differing definitions of excellence we needed to
>> >> > be
>> >> > more specific since we suck at policing ourselves.   Ideally we
>> >> > should
>> >> > have
>> >> > other members stepping in and saying stop being unexpected but
>> >> > everyone
>> >> > hates confrontation and when someone confronts someone we have tons
>> >> > of
>> >> > bike
>> >> > shedding and victim blaming. Not great For Us And Our Image.  I hate
>> >> > being
>> >> > the laughing stock of the hackerspa ce com.unity.   I hate that we
>> >> > couldn't
>> >> > make a safe enough space for everyone to feel comfortable so another
>> >> > space
>> >> > had to be made with more logic.
>> >> >
>> >> > On Feb 25, 2014 7:50 PM, "Naomi Most" <pnaomi at gmail.com> wrote:
>> >> >>
>> >> >> I would say that the only permanently binding "rule" at Noisebridge
>> >> >> is:
>> >> >>
>> >> >> Be Excellent to Each Other
>> >> >>
>> >> >> Everything else is an experiment.
>> >> >>
>> >> >> On Tue, Feb 25, 2014 at 7:46 PM, Ronald Cotoni <setient at gmail.com>
>> >> >> wrote:
>> >> >> > I would say whatever is in the bylaws and on the wiki is what it
>> >> >> > is.
>> >> >> > I
>> >> >> > believe that means a hackerspa ce that has a community that has
>> >> >> > issues
>> >> >> > dealing with things due to a variety of issues one being victim
>> >> >> > blaming
>> >> >> > and
>> >> >> > others being unable to effectively deal with most basic issues.
>> >> >> > What
>> >> >> > do
>> >> >> > you think noisebridge is?
>> >> >> >
>> >> >> > On Feb 25, 2014 7:38 PM, "Naomi Most" <pnaomi at gmail.com> wrote:
>> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >> You don't need to throw the baby out with the bathwater.
>> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >> First off -- empirically speaking, the harassment policy is being
>> >> >> >> vehemently NOT ignored, but rather vehemently enforced.
>> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >> What you're observing is the tumult that's occurring because this
>> >> >> >> policy and subsequent process are taking the place of
>> >> >> >> community resolution.
>> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >> What you should be asking yourself is whether Noisebridge should
>> >> >> >> be
>> >> >> >> thought of as a "community" or as a hack-space vending machine.
>> >> >> >> If
>> >> >> >> the former, then we need to take better care of each other and
>> >> >> >> not
>> >> >> >> characterize the world as black and white.  If the latter, then
>> >> >> >> hey,
>> >> >> >> why don't we close the space at 11pm and hire security guards.
>> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >> --Naomi
>> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >> On Tue, Feb 25, 2014 at 7:01 PM, Ronald Cotoni
>> >> >> >> <setient at gmail.com>
>> >> >> >> wrote:
>> >> >> >> > I am going to take this thread as the harassment policy has
>> >> >> >> > failed
>> >> >> >> > and
>> >> >> >> > is
>> >> >> >> > being blatently ignored.   Should we just not have one anymore?
>> >> >> >> >
>> >> >> >> > On Feb 25, 2014 6:53 PM, "Ronald Cotoni" <setient at gmail.com>
>> >> >> >> > wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >> >> Huh.
>> >> >> >> >>
>> >> >> >> >> On Feb 25, 2014 6:48 PM, "Naomi Gmail" <pnaomi at gmail.com>
>> >> >> >> >> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>
>> >> >> >> >>> Uh, maybe some input from the involved parties?!? before
>> >> >> >> >>> leaping
>> >> >> >> >>> to
>> >> >> >> >>> conclusions like that?
>> >> >> >> >>>
>> >> >> >> >>> Sent from my iPhone
>> >> >> >> >>>
>> >> >> >> >>> On Feb 25, 2014, at 6:33 PM, Ronald Cotoni
>> >> >> >> >>> <setient at gmail.com>
>> >> >> >> >>> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>
>> >> >> >> >>> Then this is pretty clear that it is harassment.   Right?
>> >> >> >> >>> What
>> >> >> >> >>> more
>> >> >> >> >>> information do we need?
>> >> >> >> >>>
>> >> >> >> >>> On Feb 25, 2014 6:32 PM, "Charles Tang" <cjtang1 at asu.edu>
>> >> >> >> >>> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>> I don't think mediation between Tom and Lee is a good idea.
>> >> >> >> >>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>> I mean Lee seems to want Toms attention for some reason.
>> >> >> >> >>>> --
>> >> >> >> >>>> Sent from Mailbox for iPhone
>> >> >> >> >>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>> On Tue, Feb 25, 2014 at 6:26 PM, Ronald Cotoni
>> >> >> >> >>>> <setient at gmail.com>
>> >> >> >> >>>> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>> Can you help lee with getting a consensus item on the
>> >> >> >> >>>>> docket
>> >> >> >> >>>>> or
>> >> >> >> >>>>> perhaps
>> >> >> >> >>>>> mediation?
>> >> >> >> >>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>> On Feb 25, 2014 6:23 PM, "Naomi Gmail" <pnaomi at gmail.com>
>> >> >> >> >>>>> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> I could have blocked as well, but thought MCT had it
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> covered.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> Honestly I just didn't think the proposal would go
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> through. I
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> see
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> it
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> as a failure of community and an abuse of bureaucracy that
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> it
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> did
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> go
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> through. So I am coming tonight to learn more.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> Sent from my iPhone
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> On Feb 25, 2014, at 6:18 PM, Lee Sonko <lee at lee.org>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> MCT agreed to proxy-block for me several weeks ago. He was
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> at
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> the
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> meeting 2 weeks ago when the matter was expected to be
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> discussed,
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> however it
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> wasn't brought up. Last week MCT wasn't at the meeting so
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> I
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> had
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> no
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> representation.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> I work Tuesday evenings so am generally unable to attend
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> meetings
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> but
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> I found a substitute tonight.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> I hope we can all discuss this matter together.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> Lee
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> On Feb 25, 2014 6:07 PM, "Ronald Cotoni"
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> <setient at gmail.com>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> Lee was aware and Lee chose for a long time to not come
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> to
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> meetings
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> or get someone else to proxy block.  I suggest you get a
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> deeper
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> understanding of how consensus works and why it is the
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> way
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> it
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> is.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> It was
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> to give him time, which he ignored sadly and has to deal
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> with
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> the
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> consequences now.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> On Feb 25, 2014 6:00 PM, "Charles Tang" <cjtang1 at asu.edu>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> The second person who answers by come to a meeting.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> These answers are fluid, which is the reason why Johnny
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> asked
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> for
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> clarification on GitHub.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> We need a better understanding and conceptualizer for
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> banning.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> I made my case with Lee. It seems to me he was just
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> being
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> annoying
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> to Tom. Now, others do annoying things to me all the
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> time,
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> but
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> I
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> don't
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> exclude.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> The problem here is a failure to communicate, to ask, to
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> "participate", to educate and to help.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> Indeed, the community is fractured. Indeed, people can
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> be
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> annoying
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> Indeed, people can do bad things.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> But, goodness is fragile. Moreover, exclusion is not the
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> answer
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> for
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> our problems. Inquisitions to rid ourselves of
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> alternatives
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> forecloses
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> opportunity for us all.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> And movements fail. . . .
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> --
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> Sent from Mailbox for iPhone
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> On Tue, Feb 25, 2014 at 5:53 PM, Ronald Cotoni
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> <setient at gmail.com>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>> Come to a meeting.  Read the bylaws and look at the
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>> wiki.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>> These
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>> questions can be answered by those things
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>> On Feb 25, 2014 5:47 PM, "Charles Tang"
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>> <cjtang1 at asu.edu>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>> Is active member defined be the label "member" or is
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>> it
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>> define
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>> by
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>> those who are "active."
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>> Or is there really a mythical "active member"
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>> --
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>> Sent from Mailbox for iPhone
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>> On Tue, Feb 25, 2014 at 5:45 PM, Adrian Chadd
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>> <adrian.chadd at gmail.com> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> On 25 February 2014 17:42, Darius Garza
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> <313kid at gmail.com>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> wrote:
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> > "A ban from the Noisebridge space may be a useful
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> > social
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> > punishment for a
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> > social crime"
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> >
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> > Noisebridge is a lot of things, but it certainly
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> > isn't
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> > up
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> > to
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> > anyone to use
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> > it as a "social punishment" tool.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> ... noisebridge is apparently whatever the active
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> membership
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> decide it
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> is. I thought that was the point.
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>>
>> >> >> >> >>>>>>>>>>> -a
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