[Noisebridge-discuss] Feminist Book Club For Men: tomorrow 7pm was: The Nuclear Option
Lee Sonko
lee at lee.org
Fri Jan 17 05:00:05 UTC 2014
Hannah, I say again, please reread my emails and your response and then try
responding again. I suggest you wait a day to cool off before hitting the
Send button.
I repeat: I hope that the feminist book club for men meeting went well. Did
it? I haven't seen anything on the list.
Lee
On Wed, Jan 15, 2014 at 6:38 PM, Hannah Grimm <dharlette at gmail.com> wrote:
> Lee,
> No one is obliged to interact with you. You misbehaved on the wiki, and
> lost privileges. You then engaged in a campaign of harassment against Tom
> that was vastly out of proportion with the issue at hand, in which you
> continuously sent him passive-aggressive emails, looked up his number
> online so you could call him on his personal phone without invitation, and
> dragged unrelated targets into your obsession with him. Danny already gave
> you your wiki privileges back, so at this point you are just trying to
> demand the attention of someone who has made it perfectly clear that they
> do not want to engage with you.
>
> I'd like to remind you of some of the information in our anti-harassment
> policy: "Harassment includes offensive verbal comments related to gender,
> gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, physical
> appearance, body size, race, religion, sexual images in public spaces, *deliberate
> intimidation, stalking, following*, harassing photography or recording,
> sustained disruption of talks or other events, inappropriate physical
> contact, and unwelcome sexual attention...*People asked to stop any
> harassing behavior are expected to comply immediately*."
>
> This is me telling you that what you're doing is harassment, and asking
> you to stop. Do not contact him again.
>
> Hannah
>
>
> On Tue, Jan 14, 2014 at 11:56 PM, Snail <snailtsunami at gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> So, you think he's doing a poor job of it and want to volunteer to run
>> the book club discussion yourself? Or do you have another nominee in mind?
>>
>>
>> On Tue, Jan 14, 2014 at 10:57 PM, Lee Sonko <lee at lee.org> wrote:
>>
>>> Hannah writes:
>>> -------- Original Message -------------
>>> I think you need to back off here. Replying to a thread about
>>> something awesome and very much needed at Noisebridge to dredge up a
>>> personal grievance you have with an individual is an obvious and deliberate
>>> attempt to stir up drama and to drag the feminist book club down with it.
>>> That is not cool. The way you describe your interactions with Tom (calling
>>> & emailing him repeatedly, despite him making it clear that he doesn't want
>>> to speak with you) is a set of behavior that frankly would incredibly freak
>>> me out if you were doing it to me. If feminism is "the belief that men and
>>> women should have equal rights and opportunities" then I hope you don't do
>>> this to ladies because I'd be seriously threatened by this kind of behavior.
>>> -------- End of Original Message ------
>>>
>>> Tom changed my rights on the wiki and then refused to discuss the
>>> matter, or any matter, repeatedly. That was my first and only interaction
>>> with him despite me trying nicely to resolve the situation. I am receiving
>>> a clear signal that he is not a good communicator. That directly
>>> relates to him organizing a feminist book club; I suppose it actually
>>> only relates to him facilitating a discussion, not organizing, but the two
>>> tasks often go hand-in-hand. If he is petty and non-communicative with me,
>>> a virtual stranger, I don't believe he would make a good leader for a book
>>> club founded on discussing the sometimes strained communication between
>>> people of different genders. Hence my comments.
>>>
>>> >calling & emailing him repeatedly, despite him making it clear that he
>>> doesn't want to speak with you) is a set of behavior that frankly
>>> >would incredibly freak me out if you were doing it to me
>>>
>>> Please reread my original email, that is not what I wrote, nor is that
>>> what happened. He used his powerful rights on the wiki against my account
>>> and then (as now) refuses to communicate about the exercise of those
>>> rights. The issue has, sadly, never been resolved because Tom continues
>>> to not communicate with me. He told me to stop calling on the phone so
>>> I stopped. He hasn't responded to any of my emails except those I've CCed
>>> to the list. So that's how I communicate with him. I'm playing a game of
>>> his making. I remain open to discussion and resolution. Tom seems to remain
>>> closed. That seems like a poor choice for an organizer and perhaps
>>> facilitator of a feminist book club for men.
>>>
>>> I hope that the feminist book club for men meeting went well. Did it?
>>>
>>>
>>> Lee
>>>
>>>
>>> On Wed, Jan 8, 2014 at 6:32 PM, Hannah Grimm <dharlette at gmail.com>wrote:
>>>
>>>> Hey Lee,
>>>> I think you need to back off here. Replying to a thread about
>>>> something awesome and very much needed at Noisebridge to dredge up a
>>>> personal grievance you have with an individual is an obvious and deliberate
>>>> attempt to stir up drama and to drag the feminist book club down with it.
>>>> That is not cool. The way you describe your interactions with Tom
>>>> (calling & emailing him repeatedly, despite him making it clear that he
>>>> doesn't want to speak with you) is a set of behavior that frankly would
>>>> incredibly freak me out if you were doing it to me. If feminism is "the
>>>> belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities" then
>>>> I hope you don't do this to ladies because I'd be seriously threatened by
>>>> this kind of behavior.
>>>>
>>>> Hannah
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> On Wed, Jan 8, 2014 at 9:23 AM, jarrod hicks <hicksu at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> Organizing an event at Noisebridge does not require that the organizer
>>>>> be the best person for the job (far from it), only that the person be
>>>>> willing to do the work necessary to make the event/class/meeting
>>>>> happen; 'and proud we are of all of them'. Even if in this case by
>>>>> "not the best" you may actually mean "I think you are possibly the
>>>>> worst", events/classes/meetings are educational for their facilitator
>>>>> as well and so not being good at something is still a great
>>>>> prerequisite for organizing getting together with others to learn.
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